Wednesday morning mark and i (yes MARK and i!!!!) went to raidens developmental appointment. All CHD babies get refered to check how they are developing. Because of the surgeries there are high chances that their development would be slowed. I understand why we needed to go and was happy to go, any help for ray is a blessing.
Well we get there and he knew right away it was another Dr office! lol started crying soon as they wanted to weigh him (my fat 18lb baby!!) We get into our room with the one way mirror which at first didnt bother me, but as they went on it bugged the crap out of me! There were 2 drs and 4 med students back there evaluating him/and more importantly us!
The first dr we spoke with was nice, just getting general information on how he interacts at home, his schedule with meds/feeds/sleeping. All things i expected to happen at the appointment. Then came in the other woman. She was nice the whole time (think thats what bugged me) but in my house when we want something from the kids we ask "can i have that please" we say it to ray as well....this chick was all "gimme that, give it to me" i looked at her like she was crazy. Ray didnt hand it to her either, soon as mark asked him "can i have that please" he handed it to him and let go. I rolled my eyes at her (she was writing something down) so she didnt see but im sure the drs behind the mirror did LOL
She then handed him a block the size of his hand and wanted him to stack them!! Really! The size of his hand, i can see a block 2x's that size him stacking but not something that can fit in his mouth...and that bothered me that she handed him somethin so small!! But again i held my tonge. She even gave him a crayon and pice of paper...now, im sure there are some 9month olds that are extreamly advanced and this would be no biggie for them, but Ray has a older sister and brother who leave crayons on the floor a lot...i dont let him touch them due to him choking on them eating them exct.. so again eyes rolled lol
Finally when the last Dr came in she let us know that for his age that he is doing great and doesnt need any extra assistance. Sure he isnt crawling, but his leg strength is point on he can stand as long as he is assisted and when he is on his tummy he puts all his weight to his butt and legs just wont go anywhere lol
So to me overall it was a great appointment. He doesnt have to go back till right before his 3rd surgery and then after the surgery!
Im so proud of him, and myself... i feel bad that i dont have enough energy to play with him the way other moms can (if it were their only child). But when i look at the larger picture, I am able to take care of every need he has, im able to take care of ebony (which is another big job lol) and kai! And to remember to eat for myself and stay hydrated. I know mark wishes i felt better so that more around the house got done but i know overall hes proud of me too!
Motherhood is hard, but im sooooooo glad that i am a mom. If it was just me and mark no kids i think my life would be sooo boring, the kids have brought us closer together. Im so glad that i found mark, our relationship is wonderfull...we know what the other is thinking, the kids make us stronger especially raiden!
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